My father had amazing charisma, and he was a great story teller. I've probably learned some things but observing him, and I've recently become interested in why some people have *amazing* charisma, and whether this can be learned.
My own experience has taught me that the best way to connect with someone is -
The two best listeners I ever met were Thich Nhat Hanh (books) and Bill Campbell (bio).
I went to a Thich Nhat Hanh event in Boston in 2002. At one point during the event, when the audience got to line up at the front of the room and ask questions, one woman told him that she lost her sister in the 9/11 attacks. It is hard to describe this, but the way he listened to her was one of the most powerful things I've ever seen in person. Through his body language, his eyes, and his voice- TNH showed her that he accepted her, he loved her, he valued her, he had compassion for her, and he was interested in her experience.
I got to work with Bill Campbell when I sold my startup to Intuit and then when I served as VP Technology. Each time I met with Bill, he left me with the impression that he came to work that day just to meet with me.
Here are some resources on charisma and related topics: